Housewife? at-home mother? feminist?
This essay by Nancy Vazquez has long been a favorite. It's included in our Transitioning Home discussion group materials: More about the discussion groups here.
by Nancy Vazquez
Back when I was dating, there were a few boys, and later men, who were put off by the fact that I was brainy and ambitious. I had the feeling they weren't quite comfortable with a girl who made better grades than they did or a woman who didn't hesitate to voice her feminist views.
I wonder about those men now. I wonder what they would think if they could see me folding laundry with my sons as we wait for my breadwinner husband to come home for dinner in our typical suburban house. I wonder what they would say if they knew that I had become a brainy, ambitious, feminist housewife.